Parenting is hard y’all!

Y’all it is no joke. Parenting that is. We have three little ones. The oldest is 6 and the youngest is 18 months. I am tired. I don’t mean tired like I just need a good night of sleep and 5 cups of coffee. I mean tired like weary, worn down, and beat up tired. The kind that a mother feels in the middle of the night when she has cried and cried and is spent.

I learned pretty quickly that this motherhood gig comes with a lot of sleepless nights worrying about your kids. If it isn’t one of them it is the other or all of them at the same time. They all have different struggles and I want more than anything to swoop in and scoop them up and protect and fix whatever it is. But I can’t always fix it.

I can’t protect them from every hurt and when they hurt oh how my heart hurts with them and for them. I want too but I know that what they are facing I can walk with them and hold them. I can love them and cry with them. So many times the challenges that they face will strengthen them, will help them grow, and teach them lessons that words could never teach.

It is easy to forget that God must feel the same way about us. When I am hurting, tired, weary and broken oh how it must hurt him. But where I can not see the outcome he can. He knows what my storms will bring. He knows the lessons I will learn that I would not learn if I did not face that circumstance or walk through that valley.

He never leaves us though. He stays and comforts. He holds us and doesn’t let go. Hold on to that promise. Hold on to him. He will see you through. Just like when you hold and comfort your child he does the same for you because he is our father and he loves us.

“Blessed be God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble by the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” 2 Cor 1:3-4

Perspective

Perspective is defined as “a particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view”

It has been a stormy season in our home. Life has been particularly tough. Honestly, I have been through all the emotions. As we get up day after day waiting for God to change the situation. It has been hard. Today, I was reminded that regardless of the situation I alone control my perspective.

It is so easy to forget the everyday blessings and focus on our wants and needs. An attitude of gratitude will go a long way. I can choose how I act.

I encourage you to make a list of your blessings. Things that you can remind yourself of when the storms come. Whether it be something like food in the pantry, healthy kids, a home, bed, clothes. All those things we take for granted write them down and refer back to that list when you are tempted to forget them.

 

James 1:2-4

 “Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”

 

You may not be able to change what is happening around you or to you but you can change your perspective. Let’s focus on the good and trust God with the rest.

 

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Another blogger, why?

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Why start a blog? There are millions of blogs out there, what makes mine different? Well, I am so glad you asked!

 

I believe that so many problems could be solved if we had a sense of community. I have been through quite a lot. Others have been through a lot. However, society tells us to make sure our blogs are pretty, and snapshots perfect. But what if, we were honest? What if we told the truth about what is going on with our lives. We all fear judgment and in todays, instant world of shaming it is no wonder we do our best to hide our imperfections. The truth is I do not have it all together. Some of you out there know this about me! However, I can make a pretty convincing case online that I have it all figured out. That my house is clean, kids are well-behaved geniuses, and I am living a fairy tale.

Unless you happen to drive by my house, or run into me at Target I can be pretty convincing. But we all struggle we just feel alone in our struggles. My hope and prayer is that by sharing the paths I have walked and the paths I am walking you will feel less alone and maybe we can get back to having that sense of community and a lot less judgment.

I hope that you will check in from time to time as I share what is on my heart and let me know what you think.

 

Kelly

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Welcome to Messy Grace!
My name is Kelly and I have been married 8 years to Brian. We have three kids and two dogs. Our home is never quiet. The kids are 6, 4 and 18 months. Brian works and I stay home and run the circus . Life is messy and my hope in starting a blog is that by sharing my messy life and my heart I can encourage other mom’s that are walking the same journey. So I hope you will join me from time to time, pull up a chair and that cold cup of coffee you have warmed for the fourth time today and laugh and cry with me. We are in this life together we might as well share it!

 

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